Extroverts need to hear their thoughts in order to figure out how they feel or what they want. It is important to recognize that what they say may not be their final decision. They are simply thinking out loud, sorting through emotions and ideas. They may not even need a response from you. Knowing you are listening may be enough.
Extroverts are energized by groups of people. They are the individuals in your family
who might reluctantly go to a party on a Friday night because they are tired, but once
they are there they do not want to leave. They are the kids who come home from school or child care and complain,” I am bored. Who can I invite over?” They are the people who love a kitchen that opens to the dining area so that they can talk with family or guests as they prepare a meal.
“Or they are the kid who even as a baby got to excited in a group that he‘s coo and wave and start cycling his legs until he’d almost fall out of his infant seat.
Extroverts need activity and stimulation. If things are dull, your little extrovert may start picking in his siblings or the dog just to get some action going. They are the kids who come running home after school and yell, “I am going to Katies’ house be back by five o’clock” As they run out the door. They are the babies who insist on being carried looking out at the world. They want to see the people, lights, colors, pets. Instead of being comforted by snuggling into the shoulder, they will fuss and fume until you turn them around or take them out to do something.
Because Extroverts are energized by being with people, they are drained by being alone too much. Little extroverts tend to hate time out. Send them to their room, and they are liable to sneak back out. If the only way you can get your child to take a break is to go with him, you probably have an extrovert. They are the kids who can not fathom why you would want to be alone in a room and join you to “cheer you up”. Trying to get them to play alone is a major endeavour. They might play a few minutes, then start asking questions. Before you know what is happening, you will find yourself either helping them or taking part in the game.
Extroverts like immediate feedback. They are the kids who finish a worksheet and bring it to you for your approval. They want to know what you are thinking and if you like what they are doing. You might worry about their self-esteem. You probably do not need to fret. It is likely that you have an extrovert who is simply seeking feedback.
Introverts need time to think before answering a question. They are not ready to talk about raw feelings. Ask them how they feel, and they may not answer, not because they are angry or are trying to be difficult-they simply need time to think in order to figure out how they feel. That is why many little introverts become talkative at bedtime. They have had time to reflect on their day and are now ready to converse. They are not just stalling.
If you need to reduce stimulation and activity, you send your introvert to her room for time out, and you may have to go and get her because she does not want to come out. She is not angry, she is playing all by herself and having a great time. Introverts need a break from stimulation and activity. They are the toddlers who will crawl under the table and sit there with their blanket, shielded from activity around them. They are the kids who get into trouble for escaping from their classroom, especially around 11:00 AM
When they need a break from the group.
Inverters do need their space, not only their physical space but also their visual and auditory space. They are drained by crowding. They are the kids who move away from an activity when other kids start to play. At circle time, they may pull away from the group. They aren’t being unsociable They simply prefer to have more space and quiet.
Introverts may be elected class president. They can be very social and popular, but they may rarely invite friends over.
The noisiest members of your family may be the introverts when they are comfortable, introverts may sing loudly, be superb joke tellers, and talk your ear off, but they like to have control of the noise and choose when to converse. Around others, especially strangers, the introverts may be quiet until they feel comfortable.